Pillow spends much of a typical day on my bed; when I find him there, I tussle with him. Now I have clear evidence that he enjoys these little skirmishes: whenever I go to that room (except at bedtime), he eagerly follows me in and jumps onto the bed.
Yet he never approaches me when I’m not on my feet.
Fluffie, alas, is less friendly to me since Pillow joined us. She still visits me in bed but never jumps on my lap anymore.
Both “never”s are a bit too strong. Pillow has learned to sit in my lap; he’s more likely to do so if I’m sitting under a blanket. Fluffie sometimes sits on my left thigh, or on my chair arm, but not in my lap anymore.